I want to share with you today a quick lesson that I learned about the deadly force of procrastination.
You know that most of us in life make decisions based on emotions. We associate pleasure with things that we want and associate pain with things that we don’t want. Some examples: I want to buy a car. I don’t want to help my friend. I want a cup of coffee.
If you notice, most of the time when we use keywords, won’t, like, don’t like, don’t want, it is showing that we are between two worlds, pleasure and pain. And obviously as mentioned before, we ran up to pleasure and avoid pain.
Now, there is another keyword that is above those emotions that not all of us can’t attend to all the time. All of us know it, but we don’t always follow through. The word is need. Need shows commitment. Need is something that will push you, whether you feel like it or don’t feel like it.
Need is something that will give you so much strength to overcome any challenge that comes on your way to overcome it. Here is some conflicts as an example. I need to wake up 5 in the morning so I would have productive day, but I want to sleep. I need to help my friend, but I don’t have time. I need to hydrate my body with water, but I like coffee.
If you notice, we contradict. And therefore, it will never work out. Because we will always associate pain with doing the right thing and pleasure with avoiding it. Now, how do you get to procrastination?
Basically, same idea. When somebody asks you to do something or when you realize that you need to do something. And you say to yourself, you know what? Not now. Let’s do that tomorrow. Now, as soon as you did that, what happen in your mind, will actually associate pleasure with pushing into tomorrow and pain with doing it now.
And now, when we condition ourselves or recondition ourselves or when we condition our kids or people around us, we need to be aware of this. What are we doing? Why do we do that? Because if we follow the same pattern multiple times, it becomes subconsciously ours and we respond that way.
We always avoid doing it now and push it for later. Avoid pain. Ran after pleasure. And in this way, it will never work out in our favor. So what we need to do is we need to recondition ourselves and learn to say I want to do it now and I need to do it now. When those two are in line, this is how we get things done. And we should stop pushing it off.