Most of us want to achieve something in life. Most of us have dreams, goals that we’re trying to achieve, but somewhere along the line, a lot of us just fall and never follow through. The question is, why? Why is it when we set the goal, it’s not necessarily that we would achieve it?
For example, so many New Year resolutions about losing weight, getting fit, getting ready for the summer. The gym membership is so cheap. They even offer you a referral fee of $50. How can they give away $50 when a membership costs $30 a month? That means it would take at least two months for them to recover what they just gave away, but they’re surely giving it away. Why? Because most of the people sign up, but they never follow through, and then they just pay annual membership. If everybody’s who’s going to the gym would show up there the same day, there would be no place in the gym. Unfortunately, most of the people are just paying membership, but they’re never at the gym.
So the same you can apply everywhere. Everybody wants to be successful in business. Everybody’s setting goals in their relationships, in their parenting, you name it, but not necessarily sustained of what needs to be done.
So can we set a guaranteed process that would allow us to achieve any goal? There is a way.
Basically, if we would analyze whatever the goal is, no matter how big it is, if you break it down into small parts, you would make it achievable. It might take you a longer time, but it is achievable.
So what is that breaking into smaller parts called, or what does it look like? Basically, think of it as a blueprint. Every single goal would be broken into parts of what needs to be done and how it needs to be done. We’re not going to talk about how often, until when. We’re just going to focus on what needs to be done and how it needs to be done.
For example, let’s say somebody wants to lose 15 pounds. There’s different strategies and methods that they can use, tactics to achieve that goal. They might decide that they would go to the gym, sign up for a gym membership. They would focus on their nutrition, make sure they’re going to eat properly. They’ll make sure they sleep a proper amount of time. They would have a schedule, and so on. So those are just strategies.
Now, how we’re going to do it is another process. Most of us just jump into “let’s go just do it” without planning, without knowing what exactly we’re going to do, and that’s where the trouble comes, and that’s where we fail.
So again, we have a goal. If we know what needs to be done and how it needs to be done and we follow through and review it every day, it’s a guaranteed success that we’re going to get it.
Something might show up that would contradict that and stop us. What is it? It’s the processes that we try to place into our daily routine to achieve that goal through the how we’re going to do it and what we’re going to do. So those processes are conflicting with our habits. We already have our mindset. We already have our habits. We already have things that we do daily. A lot of it needs to be changed.
For example, I’m used to watching a show every evening and having a pint of ice cream. Obviously, that would be in the way of me losing 15 pounds. You can’t lose 15 pounds and eat a pint of ice cream every night watching your friendly show. Instead, that process, for example, could be replaced with going to the gym, following certain routine or workout. Instead of eating ice cream, you’re working out. Replace. Replace the habit.
It would be nice if it would be just easily done, but the change most people don’t like to change. We’re already set in our ways. That’s why we are today where we are, because of the thinking that we have for today. This is the best that we can get out of our life today. Everything that we’ve done, this is what brought us here. Things that we have, things that we’re experiencing, sharing, this is our mindset. If we want to go beyond that, something needs to change. Yes, it would be a sacrifice, but it’s only initially.
Basically, we would rely on our willpower to introduce a new process to replace a current habit. If the willpower will sustain us and make this as a new habit, we basically have a habit, a process that is following what and how we need to do things to get to our goal, and the goal is achieved.
Now, willpower is not always that strong because a lot of times you hear people are interested in becoming successful, interested in improving their relationship, interested in influencing their kids, but they’re not really committed.
What’s the difference between interested and committed? Somebody who’s committed, he’s not driven by emotions. He’s going to do whatever it takes. It’s not even willpower. He doesn’t need willpower to push him because he’s committed. He’s going to do it. He sees himself, “I am that person that does it.”
So willpower and the commitment the commitment is like a belief system. “I believe.” So this is where another conflict comes between habits and beliefs. If I believe that this process will bring me to my goal and I know I can do it, I will achieve it. If I don’t really believe it, it’s not in line, and basically, it will fall apart.
For example, I could tell my friends, “Guys, this year, I’m going to make a hundred grand.” Just like that. But deep down inside, I might have some kind of doubts. If I have doubts, externally I’m saying to everybody I can do it, but internally I don’t really believe it. So whenever I’m going to set the goal 100K, just like that, will set the how and what needs to be done, will replace all the habits, will start using my belief and willpower and commitment to achieve it, somewhere along the line, I will fail. Why? Because I don’t really believe that I can do it.
Now there’s another thing that comes into play that’s really a good fuel, a booster. It’s our intention. Why? Why do you do what you do? As I mentioned earlier in a previous video, a lot of times people wait for some kind of crisis to happen in order to give them their “why,” why they want to do what they do. But if we intentionally set the reason why enough is enough. I decided I’m going to change my life. I’m going to commit myself to do what I need to do, to replace my habits until it’s my second nature, and I will achieve what I need to achieve.
Because if everything is in line you have a goal, you have what to do and how to do it, you have your habits, you have your belief system, and you have your intention, your “why”. If it is all in line, it’s a guaranteed process that you will achieve success.